3401 College Boulevard, Ste 210

Leawood, KS 66211

(913) 713-4156

3401 College Boulevard, Ste 210

Leawood, KS 66211

(913) 713-4156

Business Ownership isn’t a Job or an Investment: It’s an Identity

Chances are you’ve answered “What do you do?” with “I am…”

“I am a doctor.”

“I am a lawyer.”

“I am a chef.”

Especially here in the USA, we get a lot of our identity from our profession.

In my case, I’m a guy who helps people buy and sell businesses. I help people who want to be business owners find and purchase the right company for them, and I help business owners sell their companies. This doesn’t mean that’s ALL I do, let alone that it’s all I am, but for at least 10 hours every weekday day my mind is on how to achieve those transactional outcomes.

Business Ownership Shapes Who You Are

Although our clients rarely use these words, when they are making decisions about dealmaking, they are deciding who they want to be and what aspect of their identity is most important to them.

They are using their money to decide their future. This is different than putting money anonymously “in the market” – it is much more personal. When our clients put their life savings at risk to bet on themselves, the decision becomes much more emotional than a mere business decision.

For those who manage to do it and make a life for themselves as business owners, the ride can become an identity they never want to change.

For example, we’ve never closed a deal with someone over the age of 70. For whatever reason, the business owners we’ve met aged 70 or over no longer will leave their company voluntarily. They love to flirt but they don’t get deals done.

Can You Even Consider Doing Something Else??

“When a certain range of issues and ways of thinking become entrenched, it means that others start to feel awkward and even threatening” (Book of Life).

We often joke that business owners are “unemployable” because after donning the business owner identity for any amount of time, it becomes nearly impossible to slip into any other identity.

That’s one reason why we found “identity bridging” strategies intriguing.

Developed by a team at the Harvard Business School, these strategies are meant to ease the transition into retirement. Retirement can be a shocking existential change – one retirees, especially exiting business owners, often aren’t expecting.

The main researcher, Teresa Amabile explained, “When you work, you are a kind of tenant in a really settled life structure, where you know where you’re going to be and what you’re going to be doing Monday through Friday. And you have a clear identity related to your work. You go from that to having to be an architect of a new life structure and, often, a new identity, where you need to build a new life and explore new activities, relationships, and ways of thinking about yourself.”

When you own a business, you can’t quit and you can’t get fired. How much more powerful is your sense of identity knowing what’s at stake?

Things You Can Do to Avoid the Trap

There are seven “identity bridging” strategies the research team has discovered so far. These strategies could be useful in many transitions – in or out of business ownership included.

Here are the strategies and a description, as explained by the research team:

  1. “Enhancing a pre-transition identity through greater engagement
    • A grandmother who saw her grandchildren only on weekends might start caring for them regularly on weekdays.
  2. Activating a latent identity
    • One person had put aside motorcycling for 25 years, but before retirement, he bought a new motorcycle to reawaken his biker identity.
  3. Retrospectively revising a pre-transition identity
    • One man who said in an early interview that work had defined ‘who he was’ ended up saying a year later that he had never really identified with his career, that work was just for pay, and that his self-concept as a family man was—and had always been—most important.
  4. Maintaining a life philosophy
    • One woman described herself as being ‘very optimistic and fairly happy most days.’
  5. Enacting a previous identity in a new way
    • A retired engineer threw himself into doing hands-on engineering work as a volunteer for the new community center being built in town.
  6. Finding a new source for valued affirmation
    • One woman who had been mentoring junior workers at her old firm volunteered her coaching services through a community organization.
  7. Putting a material stake in the ground
    • One man opened a handyman shop more as a hobby than a business, yet he said the business cards he created gave him ‘a new sense of purpose.’”

These bridging strategies create something a business seller can move towards rather than only thinking about the loss of what they know inside their company.

Our clients, both buyers and sellers, often need our help to recognize and process their changing identity. We count it a privilege to walk through those questions with them.